Sunday, August 4, 2013

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Talking to Children about a Parent's Sex AddictionWorking with sex addiction clients who are parents inevitably brings up the question, ?How and what do we tell the children??

The answer to this question varies from family to family and with the children?s ages and developmental level. Regardless of whether the children are young or adults, parents always want to do the best that they can to help their children through this process.

Children of any age in any family where addiction is present can present a unique challenge. Questions arise as to what, if and how much to tell children about the addiction. Another question that arises is how much the children have been affected by the sexual addiction.

Talking to children about a partner?s sex addiction can be an especially daunting task for a parent. Thoughtful consideration needs to be given as to how to present the information in an appropriate manner. Often, ?sweeping problems under the rug? has been an issue in the sex addict?s family or that of their partner?s family of origin, and secrets and lies have played a role in the addictive cycle for the adults involved. So communicating effectively in a way that benefits the children can be an important step toward breaking this negative cycle.

Parents? behaviors and the way they relate with each other affect children deeply and profoundly. When parents are in crisis, there can be times where a parent does not communicate well with their child, or exhibits depression and anxiety that the child senses. Poor relational skills on a parent?s part can be a source of upset and hurt for children, and can result in the child internalizing negative messages about relationships that follow them into their adult life.

As much as parents wish to shield children from their own mistakes, keeping secrets does not accomplish this.

Prior to disclosing information to children, it is very helpful to speak with a skilled therapist and give careful consideration to what is going to be said. It may be the best choice not to share information regarding the sex addict?s acting-out behaviors; the important thing is to engage in an honest dialogue for a child?s feelings to be heard and voiced.

Older or adult children may need to be told more information, so that their perception of what has occurred is validated, and they can build the coping strategies to manage their feelings surrounding what has happened in the family system.

Regardless, it is very important that parents model addressing problems directly, rather than covertly to propagate healthy strategies for dealing with life issues. A solid relationship with a skilled therapist trained in love and sex addiction can help guide parents through this process.

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Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CST, CSAT is the founder and Clinical Director of Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles, where she and her staff successfully treat a full spectrum of sexual disorders, ranging from issues of sexual desire and dysfunction to the treatment of sexual addiction. She is the author of Erotic Intelligence: Igniting Hot, Healthy Sex While in Recovery from Sex Addiction and co-author of Making Advances: A Comprehensive Guide for Treating Female Sex and Love Addicts. Her free Daily Meditations on healthy sex and love are open to the public at www.centerforhealthysex.com/sex-meditation. Since 2006, Ms. Katehakis has studied affective neuroscience with Allan N. Schore, incorporating regulation theory into her treatment of sexual addiction. Alex is the 2012 recipient of the Carnes Award, a prestigious acknowledgement for her contributions to the field of sex addiction. More information can be found on her website, centerforhealthysex.com.

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Monday, June 3, 2013

Trial of U.S. soldier in WikiLeaks case to get under way

WASHINGTON (Reuters) - The American soldier accused of providing more than 700,000 secret documents to the WikiLeaks website goes on trial in Maryland on Monday charged with the biggest leak of classified information in U.S. history.

Private First Class Bradley Manning, 25, faces a possible life sentence without parole if convicted for the 2010 leak that outraged the U.S. government.

Manning faces 21 counts, including the most serious one of aiding the enemy, as well as prosecution under the Espionage Act of 1917.

The court-martial at Fort Meade, Maryland, about 30 miles northeast of Washington, is expected to run until at least late August. Prosecutors have said they expect to call more than 100 witnesses.

Manning pleaded guilty in court in February to 10 lesser charges that he was the source of the WikiLeaks release. He said he had released the files to spark a domestic debate on the military and on foreign policy in general.

Prosecutors rejected the pleas and are pursuing their original charges.

The judge, Colonel Denise Lind, said last month she would close parts of the trial to the public to protect classified material.

Manning, an intelligence analyst, was arrested in May 2010 while serving in Iraq. He was charged with downloading intelligence documents, diplomatic cables and combat videos and forwarding them to WikiLeaks, an anti-secrecy website.

WikiLeaks began exposing the secrets the same year, stunning diplomats and U.S. officials who said the leaks endangered lives.

WikiLeaks founder Julian Assange has taken refuge in the Ecuadorean Embassy in London since June 2012 to avoid extradition to Sweden for alleged sex crimes.

Civil liberties groups have argued that the court is restricting access to the case by withholding court documents and other information about proceedings from the public.

(Reporting by Ian Simpson; Editing by David Brunnstrom)

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Sunday, June 2, 2013

LG Optimus F3 for Sprint shows up in deep purple, predicts mild summer

LG Optimus F3 for Sprint shows up in deep purple, predicts mild summer

We already saw a rendered image of the LG Optimus F3 break cover. Now we can get slightly better look at the entry-level Android offering, in a purple hue that's reportedly heading to Sprint. There's nothing to suggest any advance on the reported 4-inch WVGA display, 2,460mAh battery and Jelly Bean (4.1.2) specifications. Pretty much the only other aspect to become clear is the textured rear. We're not reading too much into the June 24th date on scree, but if it does turn out to be mostly sunny in Chicago that day, we'll for sure pay more attention next time.

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Saturday, June 1, 2013

'Now You See Me' review: A magic-themed heist movie with maybe too much up its sleeve

By Alonso Duralde

LOS ANGELES (TheWrap.com) - Ticketholders for both magic shows and caper movies are required to engage in a certain suspension of disbelief, so that they might enjoy the wonders unfolding before them without ruining things by asking too many questions.

"Now You See Me," a heist film peppered with onstage legerdemain, will test the limits of your willingness to go with the flow. The explanations behind the bank robberies defy logic, granted - but at least they're explanations.

The plot, on the other hand, takes a corkscrew spin that may or may not fling you out of the theater.

A quartet of magicians - a disgraced hypnotist (played by Woody Harrelson), a smug street illusionist (Jesse Eisenberg), an escape artist (Isla Fisher) and a pickpocket and lock-picker (Dave Franco) - are recruited by an anonymous benefactor to become the Four Horsemen, a glitzy and high-tech magic act that packs the big room at Las Vegas' MGM Grand for one night only.

(I don't include the characters' names because, frankly, the movie doesn't care about them; you won't know any more about them in the last scene than you do in the first.)

Their Vegas show involves teleporting an audience member into a French bank vault, getting away with 30 million Euros, and showering the bills onto their audience. This attracts the attention of an FBI agent (Mark Ruffalo) and a French sidekick (M?lanie Laurent of "Inglourious Basterds") assigned to him by INTERPOL.

But as Eisenberg (reprising his cleverer-than-thou bit from "The Social Network") tells Ruffalo, to accuse them of the crime would be to acknowledge that magic exists.

Also tagging along for two more performances-turned-heists are the magicians' wealthy producer (Michael Caine) as well as a professional magic-debunker (Morgan Freeman) out to expose the Horsemen as phonies.

Director Louis Leterrier ("The Transporter," the "Clash of the Titans" remake), working from a script by Ed Solomon, Boaz Yakin and Edward Ricourt, makes the first half of the movie pop, no mean feat when dealing with the essential paradox of magic on film - thanks to the most basic of special effects, going all the way back to Georges M?li?s, anyone in a movie can do magic, so there's no inherent thrill of seeing illusions, even ones that are exciting on stage, on the big screen.

There's an inclination to forgive these stock characters since all of these actors are capable of lifting them to a higher plane, but "Now You See Me" gets so enraptured in its double-twists and reversals that it doesn't give any of its cast members the time or space required to create something memorable out of the material.

What starts out as an engaging B-movie, one that tricks you and then shows you how it tricked you, sadly degenerates into an overly complicated mess with one or two twists too many. You can feel the energy leak out of this overlong (115 minutes) movie somewhere around the big car chase through Manhattan, and then "Now You See Me" wraps things up with a whammy of a plot twist that's momentarily unexpected but doesn't, upon any kind of reflection, pass the sniff test.

And if you're OK with the film playing you for a sap, you'll laugh and clap and wonder how that bird got into that hat. But if you think there's a difference between being tricked and being cheated, you may feel swindled.

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Saudi king leaves for vacation in Morocco

RIYADH, Saudi Arabia (AP) ? Saudi Arabia says King Abdullah has left for a vacation in Morocco, challenging recent claims that the 90-year-old monarch was seriously ill.

The official Saudi Press Agency said on Friday that Abdullah left the Red Sea city of Jiddah for what the service called a "private vacation." Abdullah and other members of the Saudi royal family have palaces in Morocco and travel there regularly.

The agency gave no details on Abdullah's health, but carried photos of him being greeted by officials before his departure.

Earlier this week, reports by Iranian media and others claimed Abdullah was critically ill.

Source: http://news.yahoo.com/saudi-king-leaves-vacation-morocco-133021216.html

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Friday, May 31, 2013

HTC T6 rumored to offer 5.9-inch 1080p display, 2.3GHz Snapdragon 800

HTC T6

If the HTC One is just too small for your needs, perhaps the latest rumor will perk you up: a 5.9-inch HTC device code-named the T6 is purportedly in development. Notable leakster @evleaks has dug up a few details about this handset, and -- if true -- this is going to be one heck of a refresh to the company's premier lineup. Here's what we've heard so far: it's consistent with the One's general look, sports a 1080p display, a 2.3GHz quad-core Snapdragon 800 chipset (MSM8974), BoomSound, an OIS-equipped UltraPixel camera, 2GB RAM and a 3,300mAh battery. The T6 will supposedly feature a dedicated pen / stylus as well as a biometric fingerprint scanner around the back. Curiously, it's also reported that the T6 will have a microSD slot -- an addition that would be inconsistent with HTC's current design strategy -- and will run on Android Key Lime Pie. The latter rumor seems unlikely, given the high chance that 4.3 will be a Jelly Bean release, but we suppose anything can happen between now and late summer / early fall (the T6's supposed launch timeframe). That said, all of the above rumors are making us very excited -- and hopeful -- for what HTC is cooking up, provided it still fits comfortably in our hands.

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Huawei Ascend P6 teased ahead of June 18 reveal

Ascend P6

Thin, metal-framed device to be shown in London next month

The Huawei Ascend P6 hasn't been announced yet, but the manufacturer has already given us the phone's name, along with a very good look at one of its corners. In images posted to Huawei's Facebook page today, the Ascend P6 appears to be a slim, aluminum-framed device with a flat glass front. If pre-release rumors are to be believed, it'll measure in at just 6.3mm thick.

In its Facebook post, the manufacturer promises "the thinnest, smallest, and one of the most compact smart phones with a screen that can rival it's competitors," seemingly confirming that there's a super-slim Huawei phone on the way. Today's shot also matches up with leaked images from @evleaks that have appeared in recent days.

Huawei says it'll "unleash an intimate experience" on consumers on June 18, which is the date the company's holding a big press event at a major London concert venue. We'll be reporting live from London to show you just how "intimate" things get.

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